LOVE & MARRIAGE

By Harvey Tobkes

Sixty three (63) years of anything… does not necessarily qualify you as an expert. After all, you could have been making the same mistakes repeatedly each year, without advancing.

Nevertheless, I offer you a little advice based on my long marriage. I openly admit that I still have a lot to learn, and I am far from the perfect husband, but I have come a long way from the absolute idiot Anita married 63 years ago.

Couple dancingR-E-S-P-E-C-T is most important in a relationship. And then there is communication which involves the art of one person TALKING and one person actively LISTENING, and that’s not as simple as it sounds. During a heated argument or when your anger is at a peak do not use vile language or say things that are meant to hurt and torture your spouse; things that never can be forgiven or forgotten. Care about your spouse’s feelings; never lie or betray the other’s trust.

Keep the romantic flame burning; the bedroom is the most important room in your home and not because you sleep there for 8 hours. Yes! holding hands (we still do) and a hug and kiss daily (we still do) can go a long way to help you appreciate each other.

Anita has never given up trying to get me to play by these rules. Let’s hope the future years will be blissful.

Anita and HarveyBy the way, Anita (my Golden Girl) just peeked over my shoulder; she read this entire article and then made a very profound and sobering statement, which I quote below:

“Harv, you’re so full of crap.”

Hey! Anita, watch your language.


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