In the country at my grandmother’s house, I was in the back yard with my son. He saw a dog walking across the yard. “Daddy, how do you say, “come to me”, to a dog?” he asked.

A child can ask simple questions that have universal and far reaching implications. There is no doggy language that literally says, “Come to me”. You have to say it through tone and gesture. A dog has to FEEL that you want him to come to you and the dog has to feel that it’s safe and beneficial for him to come to you.

It’s the same with people. We really don’t say, “Be my friend” with words. We do it with tone and gesture and we have to make the other person feel that it’s safe and beneficial for them to be our friend, wife, husband, boyfriend/girlfriend, employee or employer.

Selling, consists of a lot of doggy talk. If a salesperson is rude with a mean tone, you won’t come. I don’t want you to think of people as dogs, but understand that we really convey more on the unspoken than the spoken level.

Dogs can’t understand our language, but a dog knows the difference between being abused, stumbled over and kicked. So do people, regardless of what your words are.

Just maybe, we should all learn the secret of how to say “Come to me” to a dog and people.

Source: A Wings Original

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