——–social success——–

“Who was Dale Carnegie?” you may wonder. Well, he was a guy that was born 112 years ago. He died in 1955, a very successful man. He wrote a little book called “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. It went on to sell over 30 million copies. It still sells today and is probably one of the best books on how to improve your social skills.

Here are 4 tips from Dale Carnegie. These tips have been time-tested for the last few hundreds or thousands of years. They are pretty solid:

1. Create your own emotions
“If you want to be enthusiastic, act enthusiastic.” Enthusiasm and other positive emotions are much more useful and pleasurable for everyone in an interaction.

2. Three things you are better off avoiding.
“Any fool can Criticize, Condemn, and Complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.”

3. What is most important?
Some things people may treasure the most include ideas, his family and his children, a special hobby, sport teams if he is a fan and his work on his job.

4. Focus outward, not inward.
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” Your genuine interest is projected though your body language and tonality. So, if you are just waiting for the other person to stop talking so you can talk again (and not giving your attention to what he or she is saying) isn’t really genuine interest on your part. And that may shine through. And so your interactions will suffer.

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