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A RUSSIAN ‘FATHER’S DAY” STORY ~ “THE SPARROW”

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MY FATHER’S DAY CARD – from WIFEY ANITA

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AT AGE 96 HE FATHERS A CHILD

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FATHERHOOD

By Harvey Tobkes

I have a very close relationship with my daughter. Not nearly as close as my wife because mothers and daughters have so much in common that a man, even a father, can never approach that kind of bonding. Nevertheless, we can talk about anything and that includes subjects that would embarrass most people.

However, I’m sure you are perceptive enough to know that in life we all wear masks and people do not truly reveal themselves to others. One’s perception can be a barrier to reality and in my case I think part of that is because my inner mind still wishes to see my daughter as a wonderful little girl, just an innocent sweet pre-teen child of mine. From her viewpoint, I think she sees me as I was in my 30’s and 40’s; handsome and adoring my children yet with a short fuse and easy to anger and to be feared and loved at the same time.

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Unfortunately, I just copied my father’s style of being a husband and a father, but he had it all wrong, and so did I. I would give us both a grade of “F” for fatherhood, but In spite of my shortcomings, the children turned out very well. I probably will never know their true feelings about me, and now I realize I made many mistakes, but that is all quite a normal situation in almost every family. All I have to do is look at my friends and their children and I see prevalent divorce, dysfunctional children, unhappy spouses and all kinds of problems. So, I feel I have done a fairly good job.

Yet, with what I know today, I was young, brainless and immature back then, but what about my conscience?

As I said, it’s all a matter of balance, as I did some things good and some things badly.

Of course, that’s just my opinion!

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FATHER’S DAY CARD FROM MY GRANDSONS, DAVID & STEVEN

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FATHER KNOWS BEST

I’ve often told my children that the most important decision they will ever make is whom they marry. For those of us blessed to have children, the decision has an impact that goes beyond who will love, comfort, honor and keep us.

It includes who will be a role model to our children, who will help provide for them financially, who will watch over their spiritual and moral development and who will work to provide them with a better life.

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CLEVER STUFF ABOUT NOTHING

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* The biggest lie I tell myself is…”I don’t need to write that down, I’ll remember it.”

* Gone are the days when girls used to cook like their mothers. Now they drink like their fathers.

* You know that tingly little feeling you get when you really like someone? That’s common sense leaving your body.

* I decided to change calling the bathroom the John and renamed it the Jim. I feel so much better saying I went to the Jim this
morning.

* Last year I joined a support group for procrastinators. We haven’t met yet.

* Of course I talk to myself; sometimes I need expert advice.

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DAD’S DAY

Father’s Day might be misnamed. I vote for Dad’s Day.

    I believe there’s a big difference between being a father and being a dad. The former is biological, the latter emotional. Fathering is an act of nature; being a dad is all nurture. It is certainly much easier to become a father than to commit to becoming a dad.

    BrothersEvery child needs a dad who may or might not be his or her biological father. A dad is someone who is there when a child needs him most, in good times and bad, when guidance and the gifts of an open ear and caring heart are most important

    Foster and adoptive dads are among the most special people because their gifts are often the most timely in the life of a child. Opening our doors and hearts to children whose needs are great and emotions fragile takes a certain blend of kindness and leadership. How many of us have the courage and commitment to accept another’s child as our own?

    The absence of dads in the lives of children, either physically or emotionally, is certainly one of the most obvious factors in contributing to childhood stress. While it is obvious that most moms are heroic and provide a phenomenal level of care, loving support and family leadership, I hold fast to the belief that children need more than one primary caregiver. Having studied the family for more than 30 years, I’m convinced that when a child is not afforded the advantage of a loving and caring male model, problems are more likely. Call me a traditionalist, but I think children live what they learn. And who among us has not benefited from the generous gift of male guidance?

    I certainly do not advocate putting children in peril if a parent is dangerous or his or her influence detrimental to the child’s health and safety. However, given the reality that child rearing is, at its best, a team sport, let’s develop a consensus to empower dads, support dads and, when necessary, recruit dads to be there for children who need them.

Source: Written by Jack Levine for The Ledger, Tallahassee, Florida

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FATHER & ADORABLE DAUGHTER ~ REMINDER FATHER’S DAY IS TOMORROW

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CHEVY CHASE – LAMPOON VACATION

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